Leadership Den

A senior manager once said to me “you make me feel like I can’t do my job!”

I immediately responded “I’m sorry” and began to internalize what I could have possibly done wrong to make her feel that way.  As I continued to go throughout my day, I realized that the issue was not about me but about the lack of confidence that she had in doing her job. In that one statement, she released the “power” that she held as a leader.

It’s a common feeling for emerging leaders to doubt their ability to get the job done.  Sometimes you can feel like the small kitten with a pack of dogs on your heels.  But your self doubt should not be voiced to your staff.   Even in these moments , remember your staff is there to help you get the job done.  They look to you for honesty, integrity, confidence and a will to get things done even in the darkest moments.    

So instead of saying “you make me feel like I can’t do my job” ask your staff “what do you need from me to do your job better.” And then if within reason, get it done!  

~Kimberly O’Neil, Founder of the Leadership Den www.justkimonline.com